Abandonment Issues

For many, holidays are a time of joy to be spent with family and close friends. For others, it seems holidays can percolate feelings of abandonment and rejection.

Do you suspect you have abandonment issues? Has someone told you that you attach yourself to another in relationships too soon and too fast? Do you avoid entering relationships because of an intense fear of getting dumped? Do you sabotage your relationships, even when things seem to be going well, because you don’t want to have your heart broken down the road” Do you look for flaws in a potential mate as a way of ruling out any possibility for romance?

If you answered yes to these questions, you likely have abandonment issues. This means that deep inside, you fear being rejected by others, particularly in the romantic sense. This doesn’t mean you are “sick” or are not capable of love. It does mean, however, that finding intimacy can be a major challenge.


There are many issues that cause a person to have abandonment issues. A few of the major reasons can include but are not limited to:

  • If your parents’ divorce
  • Complaints of pains, including headaches, stomach aches, low back pain, or fatigue
  • If you are adopted
  • Alcoholic parents
  • If you lost a parent or sibling
  • Abuse during childhood
  • Emotionally unavailable caretakers
  • Narcissistic caretakers
  • Verbal abuse by a significant other

If you feel you suffer from Abandonment Issues, feel free to contact us.

About the author: Sharon M. Walsh, MSW, LCSW

For more information, or to make an appointment, visit our home page or call 973-402-2315.