For many, the Christmas and holiday season is a time of joy to be spent with family and close friends. For others, it seems the holiday season can percolate feelings of abandonment and rejection.
Do you suspect you have abandonment issues? Has someone told you that you attach yourself to another in relationships too soon and too fast? Do you avoid entering into relationships because of an intense fear of getting dumped? Do you sabotage your relationships – even when things seem to be going well, because you don’t want to have your heart broken down the road? Do you look for flaws in a potential mate as a way of ruling out any possibility for romance?
If you answered yes to these questions, you likely have abandonment issues. In plain speak, this means that deep inside, you fear being rejected by others, particularly in the romantic sense. This doesn’t mean you are “sick” or are not capable of love. It does mean, however, that finding intimacy can be a major challenge.
The issues that cause a person to have abandonment fears run the gamut however, a few of the major reasons can include but are not limited to:
If your parents divorced
If you were adopted
If you lost a parent or sibling
Abuse during your childhood
Emotionally unavailable caretakers
History of low self-esteem
Verbal abuse by and ex lover
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